In this day and age, the meek don’t appear to be inheriting the earth. With ever-increasing competition in the world of work and with the explosion of social media, it’s those who are confident enough to put themselves out there and take risks that succeed!
Lots of us suffer from shyness and it can really stand in our way if we don’t take control of it. But have you ever thought about how learning a language could help you to get over it? We’ve put together a list of the tips that learning a language can really help children to overcome their timidity and build self-confidence!
From taking their first steps to learning how to read, children gain self-confidence as they master new skills. This gives them the courage to continue to explore and expand their abilities. Kids sometimes toggle between wanting to do things by themselves and having parents do tasks for them that they find difficult. As you encourage their independence, you may also need to help them talk through their frustrations and fears. Encourage their interest in learning new skills. They will develop confidence as they practice and recognize their progress.
1.Let Your Child Borrow Your Confidence
Kids look to parents to see, "Should I be scared here?" Psychologists call this "social referencing." For instance, when children see a dog for the first time, they'll look up to mom or dad to assess whether or not the dog is dangerous. If their parent looks relaxed, it's easier for the child to approach the dog. When kids are scared, our instinct might be to help them escape — or to avoid scary situations entirely. But that tells them, "This is too hard for you to handle!" Instead, provide encouragement. Tell your child, "It's hard, but I know you can do it." Show your faith in your child's ability to cope.
孩子们会看他们的父母表现来判断“我应该感觉到害怕吗？” 心理学家称之为“社会参照”。 例如，当孩子第一次看到一只狗时，他们会仰望妈妈或爸爸评估狗是否危险。 若父母看起来很放松，那么孩子更容易接近狗。 当孩子害怕时，我们的本能可能是帮助他们逃脱 - 或完全避免可怕的情况。 相当于告诉他们：“这对你来说太难了！” 相反，提供鼓励。 告诉孩子，“这很难，但我知道你可以做到。” 表达你对孩子应付能力的信心。
As it turns out, there are better ways to build self-esteem than heaping on praise for everything kids do—starting with helping them become competent in the world. To do so, though, you have to learn to step back and let your child take risks, make choices, solve problems and stick with what they start.
Identify what tasks your children are capable of handling and let them do these. If he can pour his own drink, let him. If she can get herself ready for school independently, let her. Resist the urge to step in and make the process quicker (or cleaner). Instead, try to provide time for them to complete the tasks。
事实证明，有远比不断地夸奖孩子的表现更好的方法来建立自信 ——从帮助他们成为这个世界上有用的人开始。 不过，要做到这一点，你必须学会退一步，让你的孩子承担风险，做出选择，解决问题，并有始有终。
明确你的孩子有能力完成哪些任务，并让他们自己做。 如果他可以自己倒饮料了，让他自己来。 如果她能独立上学，就让她自己去。 克制自己为了加快速度（或目标更明确）而参与其中的冲动。 相反，尽量为他们提供完成任务所需的充足的时间。
3.Improve interests and motivation ，Express opinions
Many language courses focus on different topics to help you learn. These can be anything from the environment to the school situation at home you’re studying.
It is very important to create a good English listening environment for children at home.(Songs, nursery rhymes, and stories are all available. You can take a look at the original English cartoons on the premise of protecting your eyesight.)
Do it every day, but you don't have to formally let the child sit there and listen to it honestly. You can listen while playing. If you insist on 20 minutes a day of habitual development of English listening, you will build a good language cognitive ability and phonological awareness for children.
You’re often assessed on your ability to express your opinion and so you have to get used to saying things with conviction and putting across your ideas clearly, something which shy people often struggle with!So,Be as patient as possible to encourage children to express their ideas and opinions。
4.Gain confidence from traveling
The best way to learn a language is to immerse yourself in it by visiting or living in a country where it’s spoken, and travelling or living abroad is a sure fire way to grow your confidence! You’re bound to come up against some difficult situations that your language ability will help you to solve and every time you do your confidence will come on in leaps and bounds.
When you’re travelling with kids, encouraging them to try ordering food can do wonders for their confidence in a language and therefore their self-confidence, because the two really do go hand in hand!
Why Should I Care About Confidence?
“Believe in yourself! Have faith in your abilities! Without a humble but reasonable confidence in your own powers you cannot be successful or happy.”
-Norman Vincent Peale
“相信自己！ 对你的能力有信心！ 如果你对自己的能力缺乏谦虚而合理的信心，你就无法取得成功或快乐。“