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你不知道的事——外语学习可以增强孩子的自信心

UF有方英语2018-11-08 13:58:33

In this day and age, the meek don’t appear to be inheriting the earth. With ever-increasing competition in the world of work and with the explosion of social media, it’s those who are confident enough to put themselves out there and take risks that succeed!


Lots of us suffer from shyness and it can really stand in our way if we don’t take control of it. But have you ever thought about how learning a language could help you to get over it? We’ve put together a list of the tips that learning a language can really help children to overcome their timidity and build self-confidence!


在这个时代,温顺似乎无法承袭世界。随着工作领域竞争日益激烈,社交媒体爆炸式增长。那些足够自信的人会将自己置身激烈的竞争中,敢于冒险,并获得成功!


我们很多人都会有胆怯的时候,如果我们不加以控制,它可能会阻碍我们的发展。但是你有没有想过如何学习一门语言可以帮助去克服它?我们罗列了通过学习一门语言帮助儿童克服怯懦和建立自信的小贴士。


From taking their first steps to learning how to read, children gain self-confidence as they master new skills. This gives them the courage to continue to explore and expand their abilities. Kids sometimes toggle between wanting to do things by themselves and having parents do tasks for them that they find difficult. As you encourage their independence, you may also need to help them talk through their frustrations and fears. Encourage their interest in learning new skills. They will develop confidence as they practice and recognize their progress. 


从开始学习的第一步到学习阅读,孩子们在掌握新技能时获得了自信。这使他们有勇气继续探索和拓展自己的能力。孩子有时候会在独立和依赖之间摇摆,有时他们想独立解决问题,但当他们觉得困难时,又会让父母替他们完成。当你鼓励他们独立的同时,可能还需要和他们谈谈挫折和恐惧。鼓励他们增强学习新技能的兴趣。当他们通过不断地练习认识到自己的进步时,就会发展自信。


1.Let Your Child Borrow Your Confidence

Kids look to parents to see, "Should I be scared here?" Psychologists call this "social referencing." For instance, when children see a dog for the first time, they'll look up to mom or dad to assess whether or not the dog is dangerous. If their parent looks relaxed, it's easier for the child to approach the dog. When kids are scared, our instinct might be to help them escape — or to avoid scary situations entirely. But that tells them, "This is too hard for you to handle!" Instead, provide encouragement. Tell your child, "It's hard, but I know you can do it." Show your faith in your child's ability to cope.


1.让孩子借助你的信心

孩子们会看他们的父母表现来判断“我应该感觉到害怕吗?” 心理学家称之为“社会参照”。 例如,当孩子第一次看到一只狗时,他们会仰望妈妈或爸爸评估狗是否危险。 若父母看起来很放松,那么孩子更容易接近狗。 当孩子害怕时,我们的本能可能是帮助他们逃脱 - 或完全避免可怕的情况。 相当于告诉他们:“这对你来说太难了!” 相反,提供鼓励。 告诉孩子,“这很难,但我知道你可以做到。” 表达你对孩子应付能力的信心。

2.Step back

As it turns out, there are better ways to build self-esteem than heaping on praise for everything kids do—starting with helping them become competent in the world. To do so, though, you have to learn to step back and let your child take risks, make choices, solve problems and stick with what they start.

Identify what tasks your children are capable of handling and let them do these. If he can pour his own drink, let him. If she can get herself ready for school independently, let her. Resist the urge to step in and make the process quicker (or cleaner). Instead, try to provide time for them to complete the tasks。


2. 退居幕后


事实证明,有远比不断地夸奖孩子的表现更好的方法来建立自信 ——从帮助他们成为这个世界上有用的人开始。 不过,要做到这一点,你必须学会退一步,让你的孩子承担风险,做出选择,解决问题,并有始有终。


明确你的孩子有能力完成哪些任务,并让他们自己做。 如果他可以自己倒饮料了,让他自己来。 如果她能独立上学,就让她自己去。 克制自己为了加快速度(或目标更明确)而参与其中的冲动。 相反,尽量为他们提供完成任务所需的充足的时间。

3.Improve interests and motivation ,Express opinions 


Many language courses focus on different topics to help you learn. These can be anything from the environment to the school situation at home you’re studying.


It is very important to create a good English listening environment for children at home.(Songs, nursery rhymes, and stories are all available. You can take a look at the original English cartoons on the premise of protecting your eyesight.)


Do it every day, but you don't have to formally let the child sit there and listen to it honestly. You can listen while playing. If you insist on 20 minutes a day of habitual development of English listening, you will build a good language cognitive ability and phonological awareness for children.


You’re often assessed on your ability to express your opinion and so you have to get used to saying things with conviction and putting across your ideas clearly, something which shy people often struggle with!So,Be as patient as possible to encourage children to express their ideas and opinions。


3. 提升兴趣和动机,并表达自己的观点


许多语言课程通过聚焦不同的主题来帮助孩子学习。 这些主题可以是从家庭到学习环境的任何事物。


在家为小孩创设一个好的听英语的环境非常重要。(歌曲、童谣和故事都可以,在保护视力的前提下可以看看原版英文动画片。)


每天都要进行,但不一定非要让小孩老老实实坐在那里一个劲听,也可以边玩边听。如果能养成每天坚持20分钟听英语的习惯,会为小孩打下良好的语言认知能力和语音意识。


作为成年人,你的表达能力经常被审视,所以你不得不习惯于清楚地、有力地表达自己的观点,然而害羞的人在这种情况下经常会感到挣扎。所以,尽可能耐心地鼓励孩子表达自己的想法和观点。


4.Gain confidence from traveling

The best way to learn a language is to immerse yourself in it by visiting or living in a country where it’s spoken, and travelling or living abroad is a sure fire way to grow your confidence! You’re bound to come up against some difficult situations that your language ability will help you to solve and every time you do your confidence will come on in leaps and bounds.


When you’re travelling with kids, encouraging them to try ordering food can do wonders for their confidence in a language and therefore their self-confidence, because the two really do go hand in hand!


4.从旅行中获得信心


学习一门语言的最佳途径就是访问或生活在一个母语国家,将自己浸入其中,旅行或国外居住是增加信心的最直接的方法! 你一定会遇到一些困难,当你每次用你的语言能力解决的问题的时候,你的信心都会突飞猛进。


当你和孩子一起旅行,鼓励他们尝试点菜,这会奇迹般地增强他们对语言学习的信心和对自我的信心,因为这两者确实相辅相成!


Why Should I Care About Confidence?

“Believe in yourself! Have faith in your abilities! Without a humble but reasonable confidence in your own powers you cannot be successful or happy.”

-Norman Vincent Peale

我为何要关注自信?

“相信自己! 对你的能力有信心! 如果你对自己的能力缺乏谦虚而合理的信心,你就无法取得成功或快乐。“ 

 - 诺曼文森特皮尔